On Sunday afternoon my wife and I, and 3 month old daughter decided to stop by Whole Foods for a quick lunch from their salad bar. We had our daughter placed in her car seat in the top part of the 2 tier shopping cart and her diaper bag placed on the bottom. As we walked through the ready made food section we were all having a great time, excited to discover what new health foods the store had.
Well around 2:00pm a lady bumped into our cart as our backs were turned and she made a loud noise. We turned to see what happened and it just appeared that this lady was careless and ran into our cart.
I remember feeling annoyed that she wasn’t paying attention and just ran into a cart that had a sleeping baby in it. I thought to myself “That’s weird, didn’t she see the cart? It wasn’t moving.” Little did I know that she made that loud noise to disorient us from what she was really doing…
What she did was reach down into our diaper bag and pull out my wallet and both our cell phones. Then she made a loud noise, we immediately turned and attended to our baby while the lady walked away.
Five minutes later we were at the checkout line and I reached into the bag to grab my wallet that wasn’t there.
What I learned from this whole experience is how important the word forgiveness is
Immediately after I realized the wallet was stolen my focus shifted toward catching her. When I realized that wasn’t going to happen, I felt a loss of control. I then started to ruminate about what I could have done differently and guilt set in. Then I started to blame this lady for hurting me and my family and in that moment I became a victim.
It took me three sleepless nights before I realized, holding on to what I can’t control by ruminating on what happened, or what I coulda shoulda done is pointless and it only hurts me. That lady wasn’t thinking about what she did to us, she moved on to someone else. So why should I let her hurt me any more than she already has?
What I did next was think about what kind of situation, pain and hurt this women must be experiencing to stoop to the level she did. And I thought about how grateful I am to have family and friends that love and support me. In that moment I realized, she may have gotten an iphone a droid and a wallet, but she left behind what was most important. My daughter. Someone for whom I’d gladly give away every phone and wallet I’ve ever had.
As much as I would love to have my old phones and wallet back, losing them taught me a valuable lesson in how to forgive, even when it’s hard.
To your health,